No one to trust? Here are 16 ways to build lasting trust in your relationships

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Many couples, friends and business colleagues often have the problem of trust. If we look around the world today, we will notice that most of the world is in a state of insecurity and terror. People do not
trust one another. We now live in a world where there is hardly any trust even between siblings. If you are having trouble trusting people find out how to spot untrustworthy people here.

Before boarding an aircraft various checks are carried out on each passenger. When you travel by train, your card details, name and address are often collected. When you walk on the streets the police may stop and search you and ask personal questions like your date of birth and parents ‘names. When you apply for a course, your personal details are collected and now, when you surf the internet, cookies are placed on your computer, anonymous programmes track and gather your movements, world governments spy on you and Special Forces from powerful countries disguise themselves in foreign countries looking out for any suspicious behaviour. In some countries, it is difficult for people to move around freely because of the fear of attack from terrorists, robbers, kidnappers, weirdoes, angry people and vigilantes.

So, who can you focus on your relationship and create and build on the trust? Before I answer that question, let’s see what the benefits of trust are in a relationship...

So, how can you build trust in a relationship? We all know that trust is delicate and can easily be broken and once broken, is difficult to rebuild. Whatever happened in your relationship, it is not the end and trust can still be savaged. Here is how…

• If you want to talk about your partner or others only say positive things. 
• Leave the negative stuff for your priest or psychologist or better still write it all out and when you are done tear it up.
• Always speak the truth and apologise if you need to when you have done wrong.
• Share what you have with your partner – money, time, food and so on, it will make them trust you more. At work share your expertise, in your community share your time.
• Think about how you can help your partner or others in your group without expecting anything in return.
• Never withhold information that is useful to share or that will make your life more enjoyable or that will help the other person live a better live.
• Don’t take things that don’t belong to you. Ask for permission or do without it.
• Once you make a promise, you must try to keep it except you have to cancel it because of an emergency. In that case you should apologise.
• Be respectful, helpful and considerate.
• Hold your partner or members of your group in high regard.
• Let your partner know that you are grateful for knowing them.
• Try to show your partner that you care for them deeply and that you want what is best for them
• Never carry baggage into a new relationship and never let old experiences distort your feelings.
• Share personal stories with your partner, a little at a time and wait for them to give you some feedback about themselves before you offer more information.
• Never gossip about your mate, boss or friend. Talk to them about things that may be affecting your relation and not to other people. 

If you follow these simple steps your relationship is bound to improve. Try it.